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Cultivating Mindfulness: A Path to True Employee Well-being and Business Success

Cultivating Mindfulness: A Path to True Employee Well-being and Business Success Corporate Mindfulness

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  • What is mindfulness?
  • What are the benefits of mindfulness practice to your organization?
  • How to implement mindfulness practices into daily work routines
  • How to implement mindfulness practices into work culture
  • Challenges in fostering a culture of mindfulness and well-being
  • What to look out for when engaging companies to execute mindfulness trainings and workshops:

In today’s fast-paced corporate world, where demands are high and expectations are constantly evolving, maintaining a sense of balance and well-being can feel like an elusive goal. However, amidst the hustle and bustle of daily work life, there lies a powerful tool that has the potential to transform not only individual experiences but also the overall culture and performance of organizations: mindfulness. Many of us may have heard of mindfulness, usually via social media apps or at mental health seminars, but unfortunately, many of us still see it as some new age fad with no real applications in our work life and are ignorant of its transformative power when actually put into practice.

What is mindfulness?

Mindfulness is more than just a trend or a buzzword; it’s a profound practice that invites us to be fully present in the moment, to tune into our thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations without judgment or reaction. It’s about cultivating a sense of awareness and acceptance of the present moment, regardless of the chaos or challenges that may arise.

What are the benefits of mindfulness practice to your organization?

The benefits of integrating mindfulness into the workplace are abundant and profound, touching every aspect of employee well-being and organizational performance:

  1. Reduced stress and anxiety: Mindfulness practices have been shown to significantly reduce levels of stress and anxiety, providing employees with valuable tools to manage the pressures of their roles effectively. A study published in JAMA Internal Medicine found that mindfulness meditation programs can lead to a 10-20% reduction in symptoms of anxiety and depression.
  1. Improved focus and concentration: By training the mind to focus on the present moment, mindfulness enhances concentration and attention, leading to increased productivity and quality of work. Research conducted by the University of California, Santa Barbara, reported a 14% improvement in attention and working memory capacity among individuals who underwent mindfulness training.
  1. Enhanced self-awareness and emotional intelligence: Mindfulness cultivates a deeper understanding of oneself and others, fostering empathy, compassion, and constructive communication in the workplace. A study published in the Journal of Management found that individuals who practice mindfulness regularly experience a 15% increase in self-awareness and emotional regulation.
  1. Strengthened relationships and social connections: Mindfulness promotes authentic connections and mutual respect among colleagues, fostering a sense of belonging and camaraderie within teams. Research published in the Mindfulness Journal indicated that mindfulness training can result in a 12% increase in empathy and compassion, leading to more positive interpersonal relationships and more effective collaboration among team members.
  1. Alleviation of symptoms of depression and chronic pain: Research has shown that regular mindfulness practice can alleviate symptoms of depression and chronic pain, supporting overall employee health and well-being. According to a meta-analysis published in JAMA Internal Medicine, mindfulness-based interventions were associated with a 25% reduction in symptoms of depression and chronic pain.

How to implement mindfulness practices into daily work routines:

Incorporating mindfulness into your daily work routines doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. Here are some simple yet effective practices that employees can integrate into their workday:

Physical mindfulness exercises:

  1. Mindful breathing: Take a few moments to focus on your breath, inhaling deeply through your nose and exhaling slowly through your mouth. Notice the sensations of each breath as it enters and leaves your body.
  1. Mindful movements: Incorporate gentle stretches and movements into your day, such as shoulder rolls, neck stretches, and seated twists, to release tension and increase circulation.
  1. Stillness: Set aside a few minutes each day for stillness and quiet reflection. Find a comfortable position, close your eyes, and simply be present with whatever arises in your experience.

Mental mindfulness exercises:

  1. Start and End the Day Mindfully: Begin and end each workday with a brief mindfulness practice. Take a few moments to sit quietly, focus on your breath, and bring your attention to the present moment. This can help you transition into and out of work mode with greater clarity and presence.
  1. Mindful Communication: Practice mindfulness in your interactions with colleagues by bringing your full attention to the conversation. Listen actively, without interrupting or formulating responses in your mind. Notice any judgments or distractions that arise and gently refocus your attention on the present moment.
  1. Mindful Work Habits: Approach your work tasks with mindfulness by focusing on one task at a time and giving it your full attention. Minimize multitasking and distractions, such as email notifications or social media, to maintain concentration and flow. Notice any resistance or stress that arises and practice self-compassion and acceptance.

How to implement mindfulness practices into work culture:

  1. Leadership Buy-In: Cultivate support and endorsement from senior leadership to demonstrate the organization’s commitment to mindfulness and well-being. Leaders should actively participate in mindfulness training and mindful practices, and promote their benefits to inspire employees to follow suit.
  1. Mindfulness Training and Education: Offer comprehensive mindfulness training programs for employees at all levels of the organization. Provide education on the principles and benefits of mindfulness, as well as practical techniques for integrating mindfulness into daily work routines.

  1. Integration into Policies and Practices: Embed mindfulness principles into existing policies and practices to create a culture that prioritizes well-being. Incorporate mindfulness into performance evaluations, goal-setting processes, and reward systems to reinforce its importance.
  1. Lead by Example: Model mindful behaviors and attitudes as a leader by demonstrating presence, active listening, and empathy in interactions with employees. Encourage leaders to openly discuss their own mindfulness journey and its impact on their well-being and performance.
  1. Create Mindful Spaces: Designate dedicated areas within the workplace where employees can engage in mindfulness practices such as meditation, stretching, or relaxation exercises. Provide resources such as meditation cushions, yoga mats, and calming music to support these activities.
  1. Foster Community and Support: Encourage peer-to-peer support and accountability by forming mindfulness groups or circles where employees can share experiences, insights, and challenges related to their mindfulness practice. Facilitate regular meetings or check-ins to promote ongoing engagement and motivation.

Challenges in fostering a culture of mindfulness and well-being:

While the benefits of mindfulness are undeniable, implementing mindfulness initiatives in the workplace can pose certain challenges. Here are some common obstacles with implementing mindfulness in the workplace:

  1. Resistance to change: Some employees may be skeptical or resistant to adopting mindfulness practices, viewing them as unrelated to their work or personal lives.
  1. Lack of time and resources: In busy corporate environments, finding time for mindfulness practices may be perceived as a luxury rather than a necessity, leading to resistance from leadership or reluctance to allocate resources.
  1. Cultural barriers: Organizations with hierarchical or competitive cultures may struggle to create an environment that fosters openness, vulnerability, and self-reflection, which are essential components of mindfulness practice.

What to look out for when engaging companies to execute mindfulness trainings and workshops:

When selecting a corporate wellness consultant to deliver mindfulness trainings and workshops, it’s essential to consider the following factors:

  1. Expertise and experience: Choose a consultant with a proven track record of delivering impactful mindfulness programs in corporate settings, backed by relevant certifications and qualifications.
  1. Customization and flexibility: Look for a consultant who offers tailored solutions to meet the unique needs and challenges of your organization, considering factors such as company culture, industry dynamics, and employee demographics.
  1. Measurement and evaluation: Ensure that the consultant has robust systems in place to measure the effectiveness of mindfulness initiatives and track key metrics such as employee engagement, stress levels, and productivity outcomes.

In conclusion, mindfulness is not just a passing trend; it’s a powerful tool for promoting employee well-being, enhancing workplace culture, and driving business success. By embracing mindfulness practices and integrating them into daily work routines, organizations can create healthier, happier, more collaborative and more productive workplaces for their employees.

Take the first step towards transforming your workplace into a hub of well-being and productivity. Contact us today to explore our comprehensive corporate wellness consulting services and tailored solutions designed to help you achieve your employee wellness goals. Together, let’s build a culture where mindfulness thrives, and your team can thrive. Reach out now to embark on the journey towards a healthier, happier, and more successful organization.

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Personal security and how it affects your manifestations!

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Personal security and how it affects your manifestations!

What comes to mind when you think of personal security? For most people, it is finances, a comfortable home in a secure location, a good career, family, solid relationships and a relationship with God or any other supernatural entity. These are all important aspects of personal security but with this article, I would like to reflect on a deeper and even more personal dimension of personal security. This dimension of personal security explores our relationship with our mind, our relationship with our emotions and very importantly, our relationship with our body, throughout our entire lives. I believe this dimension of personal security lays the foundation for how we experience every other dimension of personal security in our lives.

What is the end goal of achieving personal security? The obvious answer is to feel safe. To feel safe where? In order for us to feel safe anywhere in the world, we must begin by feeling safe within our own bodies. All insecurity manifests from the illusion of not feeling safe within ourselves. Your body is both your vessel to experience the world, as well as your entire world. If you do not feel comfortable within yourself, you will never feel comfortable (alone) anywhere else, therefore, your body is the most important domain to protect. Why is it important for your body to feel safe? It is important for your body to feel safe in order for you to function at your highest level in every aspect of your life. Feeling safe within our body is perceived as confidence, happiness, courage, intelligence, mastery, seductiveness, beauty, charm and many other great positive things. When our body feels safe it is easier for us to manifest the quality of life that we desire.

 

The big problem for me with personal security, is that at the beginning of our lives, our personal security is completely out of our own control. We are born as infants and our entire personal security is entrusted to the hands of our parents, family members, caretakers and community. Let us call this group of people, “Group X.”  We develop our initial concepts of personal security from Group X and how Group X makes us feel from birth, all through our childhood, adolescence stage and even up until we become adults. Group X is by far the most important group in shaping our core concepts of personal security, which influences whether or not we feel safe within our own body. The fact that we do not begin life being in charge of our own personal security means that we either begin with an advantage or a disadvantage in regards to feeling safe within our own selves and in the world! We start off life with zero language, zero knowledge, and zero power to set our own boundaries, that will allow us to feel safe within ourselves and in our interactions with everyone else.

It is during this stage of development that a lot of damage tends to be done to a lot of people and it takes intentional self-work and access to the right information and tools, to ever heal from the experiences. This is where coaching alliances and therapy can offer massive value in helping adults gain deeper insight, into life experiences that shape their feelings of personal security. We must spend time alone with ourselves, asking the right questions, meditating and listening to our body in order to truly discover what it needs to feel safe.

Here are 10 powerful questions you can ask yourself to discover how your Group X has influenced your core concepts and beliefs of personal security:

  1. Did I feel loved unconditionally by Group X? (did I only feel loved when I pleased them even when pleasing them didn’t please me?)
  2. Did I feel protected by Group X? (Did I feel they protected me from physical, emotional, spiritual and mental intrusion?)
  3. Did I feel accepted by Group X?
  4. Did I feel wanted by Group X?
  5. Did I feel safe around Group X?
  6. How did Group X make my body feel? (Did my body feel comfortable, protected and appropriately handled? Did my body ever feel in danger?)
  7. Did I feel restricted by Group X? (Could I be myself around them? Could I express myself to them?)
  8. How did Group X respond or make me feel when I made mistakes?
  9. Did I feel emotionally supported by Group X?
  10. Did group X make me feel validated (Did they make me feel like they were proud of me?)

The level of safety we feel from Group X, determines how we experience the next important group that shapes our concept of personal security. This group includes all figures of authority outside of Group X. Our school teachers, headmasters, sports coaches, school itself, church, government, celebrities and media. Let us call them “Group Y.” This is where the quality of environment and the quality of the culture in the environment become very important on so many levels! The core values, the average standard of living, the economy, the hygiene and aesthetics of the environment, inevitably shape the way Group Y influences our personal security. Using Nigeria as an example, A child growing up in Banana Island Lagos, may naturally feel safer in his environment than a child growing up in Makoko, Yaba. Although aesthetics and quality of environment are not the most important attributes of Group Y, it usually follows that with better quality of environment, comes better core values within the environment.

Within Group Y, one of the most important groups of influencers are the school influencers (teachers, headmasters, school curriculums, housemasters and sports coaches) and the religious influencers (Priests, pastors, catechists, Imams, holy men and holy women.) This group largely determines the social aspect of our personal security with regards to if we feel good enough for society and if we feel safe within society. Their curriculums, doctrines, teachings, systems of value, systems of correction, systems of validation and systems of reward greatly determine our concepts and beliefs of personal security, especially in the early stages of our lives. The degree to which we feel judged or accepted by this people and the degree to which we feel validated or invalidated by this people, also greatly affects our feelings of personal security.

Here are 10 powerful questions you can ask yourself to discover how your Group Y has influenced your core concepts and beliefs of personal security:

  1. How did school make me feel as a child? (nursery, primary and secondary school especially)
  2. How did I feel around school authorities? (head masters, teachers, sports coaches)
  3. How did my school curriculum make me feel? (classwork and homework)
  4. How did quizzes, tests and examinations make me feel?
  5. How did school authorities make me feel about my intellect and talents?
  6. How did church or mosque (or any other place of worship) make me feel growing up?
  7. How did I feel about my country’s president and leaders?
  8. Did I feel validated by Group Y?
  9. Did I feel encouraged/supported by Group Y?
  10. How did Group Y respond when I made mistakes?

The next (extremely important) group of people who help shape our concepts of personal security from an early age is our “Group Z.” This group includes our peer groups, childhood friendships, and our first intimate relationships. Outside of family, they largely influence the way we view and feel about ourselves. Our relationship with and experience of our Group X greatly influences our experience and relationship with our Group Z. The better and more solid our experience of Group X is, the less dependent we will be on our Group Z for personal security. In cases where individuals have a negative experience of Group X, the desire for their Group Z to satisfy their needs of personal security becomes a lot stronger. The people we call friends are usually people who closely reflect our inner values, beliefs and interests. They are like a mirror through which we can see how the world sees us. How this group of people view us, speak to us, treat us and make us feel, greatly shapes how we will grow up feeling about ourselves for a major part of our lives, until we learn to become accountable for our own well-being. Group Z influences our self-image, our self-confidence, our level of self-love, our level of trust, our behaviours, our trends, our systems of value and self-validation. The quality of Group Y also comes into play here because it is supposed to provide a layer of structure, boundaries and protection in the interactions within Group Z.

Here are 10 powerful questions you can ask yourself to discover how your Group Z has influenced your core concepts and beliefs of personal security:

  1. Did I feel heard and seen by Group Z?
  2. Did I feel accepted by Group Z?
  3. How did I feel around Group Z?
  4. Did I feel respected by Group Z?
  5. How did Group Z make me feel about my body? (self-image, appearance and how you sound)
  6. How did Group Z make me feel about my intellect and talent?
  7. How did Group Z make me feel about my family background?
  8. How did Group Z make me feel about being myself? (how you behaved naturally)
  9. On a scale of 1-10, how much did I trust Group Z?
  10. On a scale of 1-10 how much disappointment did I experience from Group Z?

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Now that we have discussed the major issues with personal security and the major groups that shape our experience of personal security, how do we get to feel safe? The journey to feeling safe is a journey of self-awareness, which begins with us deciding to take accountability for our own well-being as adults. We must find a way to break free from the influence and control of Groups X, Y, and Z. The more you detach from the influence and control of Group XYZ, the more you to begin to know yourself, to think for yourself, to set healthy boundaries and to truly express your truest intentions in line with your life purpose. How do we achieve this when we may already be starting with foundational disadvantages? We achieve this by connecting with the master group! This group remains hidden to majority of the world because they never delve deep enough into their journey of self-discovery and self-awareness. They don’t have the right mentorship, support or community so they give up before their journey bears fruits. This master group I like to call “Group Alpha.” This group includes God (the supreme creator), your soul (master/creative mind), nature and abundance (money, success and supply). The relationship we develop with this group supersedes any and every other relationship we have with other groups. It is through developing a solid relationship with this group that we can rewrite our entire experience of personal security and install the settings we desire to have, for our highest level of safety and well-being.

Once we become adults, we are no longer powerless to set the right boundaries for us to achieve personal security. We must desire it for ourselves and demand it from the world in order for us to ever experience it in our reality.  We must take our power back by deciding to become accountability for our own well-being and no longer depending on Group XYZ to provide it for us.

Taking accountability for your well-being is the gateway to building a solid relationship with Group Alpha. We embark on this journey of accountability by:

  • Choosing to spend more time alone with ourselves, asking the right questions, meditating, listening to our master mind, praying, journaling and observing our own patterns. The more we listen in silence the clearer we receive God’s guidance. But in order to know the creator you can’t see, you must commit to knowing yourself (the creator you can see) completely!
  • Choosing to learn about our body and emotions, finding out what they require and honoring them
  • Choosing to reflect on past experiences in order to validate how we felt about them whether or not they were validated by the world
  • Choosing to learn what we deeply desire outside of external influences and to believe that our desires are valid
  • Choosing to affirm and love ourselves everyday
  • Choosing to build consistency with our body through healthy spiritual, physical and emotional routines. The more consistent we are with these routines the more self-trust and confidence we build
  • Choosing to spend time in nature, contemplating, meditating and listening to/feeling the vibrations around us
  • Choosing to discover our talents and gifts and to do our best to express them to the full

We need personal security to live authentically, and those who think, speak and live authentically, get what they desire. Most times it is not that people don’t value us, it is that we don’t value ourselves. And most times it is not that we do not value ourselves, it’s that we do not feel safe enough or worthy enough to feel valuable.

Finally, how does your body feel about you? If your body was a friend or acquaintance in your life, how do you think it would feel about you? Sit down in a quiet place, ask your body these questions and listen to what comes to mind. Write it down.

Check out my book “21 Affirmations: Igniting a positive mental reset” for action steps you can take to “Check in with yourself” in every area of your life. I am currently running a “Self-help package promo” where you can purchase the 21 Affirmations eBook and the well-being toolkit for just $15 (N12,000) only!

The “Well-being tool kit” works as a self-coaching manual for observing and managing the action steps for manifesting your highest level of well-being! It works hand in hand as a playbook for the book 21 Affirmation, and includes detailed work sheets for doing the activities in it.

 

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Balancing your masculine and feminine energy.

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Balancing your masculine and feminine energy.

This article is about balancing ourselves because society is only a reflection of who we are. It discusses how to balance our life forces in order to direct them towards achieving our visions and goals in life. It does not discuss how people choose to express their sexual preferences.

Yes, you read it right. The title says balancing YOUR masculine and feminine energy. We live in a time where the gender categories are constantly being expanded and the lines between what society used to define as sex, “Male” and “Female,” are constantly being blurred.  My best understanding of today’s approach to sex and gender is that its definition and expression are completely up to the individual to construct for themselves and not up to society. I was born in the late 80’s and while I was growing up I was taught at home, school and in church that there were 2 sexes and 2 genders. Male equals man, which equals no pregnancy and child bearing. Female equals woman, which equals pregnancy and child bearing. The major thing separating the sexes physiologically (male from female) were their sexual reproductive organs. Growing up, my society also modeled 2 major gender expressions or gender roles for me, masculine and feminine. Masculinity was expressed as hard, aggressive, strong, confident, initiating, and stern etc. While femininity was expressed as soft, amiable, submissive, attractive, patient and affectionate. Within the family, in movies, on television, in sports, in church and in school, the sex defined as male traditionally played the masculine role, while the sex defined as female traditionally played the feminine role.  Choosing to express gender attributes of the opposite sex was usually scrutinized, frowned upon or completely forbidden. The summary of my family background is a western-influenced, African up bringing predominantly shaped by the catholic beliefs.

“Gender is a dynamic concept and an analytic category that demonstrates two main ideas. Firstly, the stereotypes, ideologies, behaviours and lifestyles conventionally associated with feminine and masculine vary considerably from one culture to another. Secondly, women and men are not universal and unalterable essences, but rather specific existences, changing and far from uniform.” – Óscar Fernández-Álvarez “Non-Hegemonic Masculinity against Gender Violence” click here to read full article

Organizing society along the lines of 2 sexes and 2 genders, and compelling each sex to being defined by only one corresponding gender expression may have seemed a lot simpler, but it came with consequences that have shaped the world in very unstable ways. A patriarchal society defined by strict adherence to 2 gender expressions justified a lot of marginalization, abuse and oppression of both men and women. I cannot deny that I have witnessed the abuse of masculinity in my life time, particularly as pertaining to its definition as forceful and dominant by society. I have witnessed how this abuse of masculine power has destroyed the balance of sexes, family, community, economies, nations, animals and even nature. I have also witnessed how this abuse of power has heavily marginalized women (and by nature, all life) which has also had a negative effect on the development of women as a survival response to the world that they find themselves in. I have observed that majority of women in the world do not feel a sense of safety being in this world. I have witnessed the excessive use of masculine power to abuse, marginalize and emasculate other men, for example the millions of incarcerated black male citizens in America. We can clearly see the energy imbalances in the way we have organized society for at least the last millennium, based off recorded history. In order for society to be balanced, we as human beings must come to a state of balance within our individual selves.

How do we come to this balance within ourselves and why is it important for us in the world we live in today?

First, we must understand masculinity and femininity as expressions of life force (energy) that aren’t limited by sexual identity. This means that man, woman or other can express masculinity or femininity and can move between a range of expressing either characteristics of those energies. Expanding our understanding of gender expressions from just rigid performances of specific roles, to free-flowing expressions of life force, gives us a more balanced and wholistic experience of human life regardless of what sex we identify with! We will begin to experience greater levels of harmony within ourselves, our affairs, our relationships and our communities. We see this concept in the Yin (feminine) Yang (masculine) ideologies of the Asian cultures and in finding the balance between the heart (Feminine) and the mind (masculine) in the biblical texts. We also hear of the concept of left brain (Masculine) and right brain (feminine) in psychology. Neither expression of life force is more important than the other and a properly developed individual learns to balance both within themselves.

The body is only a vessel through which our life force (soul) experiences life on earth. Our vessel contains elements of unlimited life force (soul energy) that can express both masculinity and femininity. Society plays a major role in defining how these energies are expressed by individuals within each sexual identity by defining the acceptable customs and norms.

The more liberated a society is the more freedom there is in the individual and collective expression of the full range of life force (masculinity and femininity) and the more oppressed a society is the less freedom there is in the individual and collective expression of the full range of life force.

Second, we must become aware of the patterns of life force (soul energy) our body has tried to express since birth. In order to do this, we must observe the whole of ourselves and our lives without judgement and outside of the lenses of societies definitions of gender expression.

I observed within myself, that since I was a child, I have always been open, accommodating and friendly. I have always had a nonthreatening and welcoming energy. I was also very athletic, energetic, creative, aggressively ambitious and determined. I channeled my aggression into sports and competition. I loved to compete and win but not by any means. I could stand up for myself and assert myself but I never had a natural desire to dominate anyone. I was very impatient, I wanted to do everything as fast as possible and I didn’t care too much about appearance (grooming). I had a passion for sports and science and I also had passion for arts and spirituality! Overall, I observed that my expressions of masculinity over powered my expressions of femininity but I had a healthy expression of both that could be nurtured for higher levels of well-being, personal effectiveness and success.

Based on a none-judgmental observation of myself, from childhood till early adulthood, I have been able to observe the patterns of masculine and feminine energy my body has desired to express in order to be able to develop and fine tune them to fit the needs of the goals I desire to achieve with my life. Becoming aware of these patterns of energy expression allows us to become more aware of our purpose in life and how best to use our gifts. The more aligned we are to our purpose the more effective we are in balancing our masculine and feminine energy. The journey of bringing this balance of life expression into different areas of my life has been allowing me to consistently achieve better results within them.  

Being aware that I was predisposed to being open, accommodating and friendly, I had to learn to create and uphold better boundaries to protect myself (and the people I am responsible for) from being taken advantage of in life. It also allowed me to enhance my focus, my peace and my self-worth. Being aware that I liked to do everything fast I have had to learn to practice patience in my self-grooming, my work, my relationship with self and my relationship with other people in order to grow in life. The masculine tendency of wanting to explode with speed had to be balanced with the feminine tendency to flow gracefully. Learning to be more aware of my tone while speaking and to be more open to listening and giving others the opportunity to initiate interaction. This has allowed me to have better conversations and to achieve more in my personal life and in business. Being aware that I was predisposed to not caring too much about my appearance, I have had to put a lot more effort into becoming aware of my personal grooming, personal hygiene and style. Being nonchalant about my appearance did not completely hinder me from receiving love and attention but I have been having better experiences and results since I started to mature into making those changes as I became more aware of them.

Having discovered I was naturally more developed in my expressions of masculinity, I had to learn to balance myself by focusing on developing (fine-tuning) my expressions of femininity. Strengthening these areas of myself allowed me to bring more balance to the whole of my personality, to gain greater mastery of myself expression and to have a better all-round life experience.

Learning to balance my masculine and feminine energy has taught me how to be both the lover and the beloved. It has allowed me to become a lot more accountable to myself while also becoming gentler, more loving and understanding with myself and others! Within intimate relationships, it is has allowed me to better observe and fulfill the needs of my partner without any sense of entitlement or judgment. It allows me to see myself and others as a diverse and beautiful work in progress rather than a rigid strive for perfection. It has given me the tools to discover deeper layers of self-expression which has led me to greater expressions of my gifts and more fulfilling experiences of life.

Bringing balance to your expression of masculine and feminine energy enables you to observe life situations without premeditated or predetermined judgements defined by entities outside of the situation. It allows you to see life objectively, zoomed out from just the view of culture and the influences of your immediate environment.

We should seek to understand which characteristic of life force a particular situation requires and be able to direct the characteristic within ourselves that best resonates with the situation rather than responding with predefined templates defined by entities outside the particular situation (society, culture etc.). This I believe should be the mark of true human intelligence.

 

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